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Sarah Flick's avatar

Marika, I love this and I feel it all the way through. I’m sorry for your loss. I also know so well the sense of my arms being over-full. Your words are an exact fit for this feeling. Thank you for this. It will be a forever gift for your daughter.

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Marika Páez Wiesen's avatar

Thank you so much, Sarah! ❤️

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Mika's avatar

💐 Taking a moment to remember your Dad and the impact he had on your life and those who loved him.

Thank you for coming other during your time of grief to help us with your words of wisdom.

What I know for sure, is that the work we have done on ourselves will shortcut the work our kids will need to do. Your awakening and life lessons you have learned DO get soaked up by our kids and they are better for it!

That’s what I have found with our kids, especially our 3 daughters. We have honest conversations and they are so much more resilient, tender, and in tune with themselves.

I think because we are more aware of our needs, we can see our kids’ needs more easily.

Thinking of you at this tough time. Hugs. 💕💕

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Marika Páez Wiesen's avatar

Thank you Mika! Appreciate this comment so much and all your support. ❤️

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Ellen Malcolmson's avatar

Marika - I'm sorry to hear about your Dad's passing. What a tough time that is to naviagate. I loved reading this moving and wise piece. I hope your daughter reads it over and over again. I think we all need to!

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Marika Páez Wiesen's avatar

Thank you, Ellen. I hope she will, too!

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Kathryn Barbash, PsyD's avatar

Marika, thank you for this generous offering. Losing a parent is so hard, I lost my mom 14 years ago. Thinking of you and your family.

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Monica Kmetz Cochran's avatar

Love this Marika. So sorry you’ve lost your dad and glad you could be there with him. ❤️Your thoughts about holding it all just because you can and have always done that really resonated too! Like you, it took me many decades to learn it isn’t always necessary or even helpful. I hope I’ve passed along a different message to my daughter!

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Judy Murdoch's avatar

Much, much kindness to you. My dad passed in 2017 and I still miss him a great deal - mostly the small moments hanging out and talking or watching a football game together. He was and still is very dear to me.

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Marika Páez Wiesen's avatar

Thank you, Judy. It’s the small moments I’ll miss, too. I’m grateful for the ones I had.

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Jennifer Louden's avatar

This is beautiful Marika. I’m glad you can put down some of the load. Your daughter is a lucky girl and you are awesome. Thinking of you as you love this in-between moment. ❤️❤️❤️

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Marika Páez Wiesen's avatar

Thank you, friend. Your support means so much. ❤️

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Laura Davis's avatar

Thank you, Marika, for this beautiful essay, and I'm so sorry you've lost your dad. I loved your daughter making side eyes at you in the parking lot--giving you the evil eye as only a teenage daughter can do. I, love, too, that you are exploring these questions for yourself because as you know, our kids learn from us based on what we do, not what we say. And she's getting a wonderful model of being an evolving, thoughtful, reflective human being, not afraid to admit when she's wrong.

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Alison Trumbull's avatar

Marika, I'm finally catching up on posts I've missed, and I'm so sorry you lost your dad! What a hard and life changing thing, when we lose a parent. And just wanted to say I always love what you have to say, it's like you can tell me just what I need to hear at the moment! Keep up the lovely and thoughtful writing.

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