Wonderful insight and yes the pram dilemma is a real one! Even more so on whether or not to buy a double pram to cart my baby and toddler around in (which was an excellent decision btw). But nothing can beat an amazing hubby and I do have a top tier one!
Love this and look forward to listening to you speak about ‘teamwork culture’ later on... if I can get a damn minute to myself! 😏🙄 Grrrr.. feeling overwhelmed.. can you tell? 🤣
Your reflection on the choices we make and their unexpected impacts on our lives is profoundly enlightening. It's so intriguing how something seemingly simple like choosing a stroller can evolve into a deeper realization about the importance of partnership in parenting. What are some other unexpected insights you've gained from motherhood that might surprise us as much as they've surprised you?
I JUST had this type of thought yesterday. I cut through the baby area at Target to get to another section and saw all the baby bottles displayed across the entire aisle. I remembered how much research I did and how important it all felt. I wouldn’t do anything different because it gave me something I could control during that time. I guess maybe I’d change it a little. Like, “It’s OK to focus on this, and also, know there is no wrong choice. Do it because it’s fun and a once in a lifetime endeavor, but not because there is a right answer.” That being said, I did find some amazing products that I’m so glad they exist. As you can see, I go back and forth 😂😂
And I so feel you about the importance of a partner in parenting. While many people are single parents by choice and thrive in that and I think I could have too, the difference between parenting truly WITH someone and with someone who isn’t really present is so monumental. My husband and I really struggled the first year of our son’s life because of that. It’s taken (and continues to take) a lot of couples therapy and individual work to stay in the fight together…and I’m grateful for it. But dang, I would have rather done it alone that first year.
Yeah, that's a mantra for sure, "Do it because it's fun, not because there's a RIGHT answer" (or because you're hoping a RIGHT answer will make everything PERFECT so you won't have to experience any uncomfortable or negative feelings at all...) I did think a bit about single moms when I was writing this. I realized that definitely not that I couldn't have done it alone. It's more that the person I "chose" deeply affected my experience... Good on you for working so hard on making it "work." I'm sure you've learned a lot!
Haha yes exactly. I remember writing in my first journal entry upon learning I was pregnant that I realized how this endeavor was just another way perfectionism was gonna show up in my psyche.
Not a dad here but I had 3 younger brothers, and I remember some stroller envy when something with big wheels would meander over grass and dirt with no issues.
Then I’d feel really smug as that same stroller took like 5 minutes to put away and our lightweight one folded easy into the back seat.
These little decisions always feel so big and then the kid starts walking and we forget about them as we’re now trying to prevent mayhem as the little ones wonder around with newfound mobility.
Wonderful insight and yes the pram dilemma is a real one! Even more so on whether or not to buy a double pram to cart my baby and toddler around in (which was an excellent decision btw). But nothing can beat an amazing hubby and I do have a top tier one!
💯 agree! 👏🏻
But damn that stroller choice being the right one was key. We put that stroller through it and then some!
Haha for sure!! We still lived in NYC and required the 'cadillac' to make it through! ;)
Love this and look forward to listening to you speak about ‘teamwork culture’ later on... if I can get a damn minute to myself! 😏🙄 Grrrr.. feeling overwhelmed.. can you tell? 🤣
Your reflection on the choices we make and their unexpected impacts on our lives is profoundly enlightening. It's so intriguing how something seemingly simple like choosing a stroller can evolve into a deeper realization about the importance of partnership in parenting. What are some other unexpected insights you've gained from motherhood that might surprise us as much as they've surprised you?
I JUST had this type of thought yesterday. I cut through the baby area at Target to get to another section and saw all the baby bottles displayed across the entire aisle. I remembered how much research I did and how important it all felt. I wouldn’t do anything different because it gave me something I could control during that time. I guess maybe I’d change it a little. Like, “It’s OK to focus on this, and also, know there is no wrong choice. Do it because it’s fun and a once in a lifetime endeavor, but not because there is a right answer.” That being said, I did find some amazing products that I’m so glad they exist. As you can see, I go back and forth 😂😂
And I so feel you about the importance of a partner in parenting. While many people are single parents by choice and thrive in that and I think I could have too, the difference between parenting truly WITH someone and with someone who isn’t really present is so monumental. My husband and I really struggled the first year of our son’s life because of that. It’s taken (and continues to take) a lot of couples therapy and individual work to stay in the fight together…and I’m grateful for it. But dang, I would have rather done it alone that first year.
Yeah, that's a mantra for sure, "Do it because it's fun, not because there's a RIGHT answer" (or because you're hoping a RIGHT answer will make everything PERFECT so you won't have to experience any uncomfortable or negative feelings at all...) I did think a bit about single moms when I was writing this. I realized that definitely not that I couldn't have done it alone. It's more that the person I "chose" deeply affected my experience... Good on you for working so hard on making it "work." I'm sure you've learned a lot!
Haha yes exactly. I remember writing in my first journal entry upon learning I was pregnant that I realized how this endeavor was just another way perfectionism was gonna show up in my psyche.
Not a dad here but I had 3 younger brothers, and I remember some stroller envy when something with big wheels would meander over grass and dirt with no issues.
Then I’d feel really smug as that same stroller took like 5 minutes to put away and our lightweight one folded easy into the back seat.
These little decisions always feel so big and then the kid starts walking and we forget about them as we’re now trying to prevent mayhem as the little ones wonder around with newfound mobility.
Lol yes, exactly! Now onto the next phase and new problems to tackle! That's pretty much the most consistent part of the whole thing...